Bachhe Mann ke sachhe........

Went for my elder daughter's preschool graduation today.  What a great experience. Time flies indeed. Today seeing her in that black coat I could actually feel how would I feel when she graduates with her master degree. Children hold such an important place in our hearts. While I was attending e function I could recall all those precious moments that I spent with her. I could actually see in front of my eyes the picture of her first day at school. I still remember she did not cry at all and I was the one who had separation anxiety. She just waved me good bye and I was standing by the gate, watching my little one go away from me for the first time. I came back to my car and was weeping. It was the same feeling today. Couldn't stop my tears today.

 

I realized one thing today that life changes at it's own pace. Before we realise; things, people, situation change. Today i might say that I don't even get even one hour for myself, but there would be a day that my kids would be busy studying or working and I would say that I don't even get one hour of them. So I spend as much time as possible with them. These days would serve as memories for the days when they are busy in their own world. Time indeed flies and every moment spent with your little one is priceless because it would never come back.

 

Same is true with all the people in our life. Those who are there today might not be there tomorrow. Life is far too short than we can think. We start taking people for granted until one day when we lose them. There is a void within us suddenly. That is a day we realise that we can't live without them or we had to say something to them. Let's not wait  for that day. Let's just call our loved ones and say how much we love them and how much we need them. We Might Not Get A Tomorrow.

Keep loving. Some one has rightly said...... 'The only luv we give is the luv we get'. If you want more; give more...........

Maximum mumbai

MUMBAI - 'The City Of Dreams' as we always say....  A lot has been written on Mumbai so what it is that I wanna say......

According to me everyone in the country or rather Should I  say in the world carries an opinion for this city. You can either love it or hate it but I bet you can't be indifferent to it....... When we the people of Mumbai think about it we only think about the bad roads, badly managed traffic, pollution and a big hole in the pocket due to expensive lifestyle. However, despite of this I always wonder what is it that makes me still stick to this city. I have had opportunities in the past and I am sure a lot of them would come in future to change the city for good. There is something that glues me to the city.. After a deep deliberation I could pin down two of very important things. One is the freedom that this crowded city offers and the other is the FRIENDS that I made in this city.

Such a paradox, the most crowded city in India gives me utmost freedom to live the way I want to, to wear whatever I like, to choose an unconventional profession, to eat the world cuisine and without any pressure of inquisitive neighbours or too nosy friends or colleagues. I love every bit of freedom that this city gives. Yes I agree that it takes away more than what it gives but what all it has given till now is priceless. 

More than the freedom I would rate my friends as being instrumental in helping me love the city. I cannot forget  to mention my husband who is my  the best friend. I would have never left Ahmedabad had it not  been Tejas who was living in this city. I started my family after I moved to this city and had I not got those few unselfish people whom I call my best friends; believe me I would have never stuck to this city. They all have made these eight years very memorable. Man is a social animal and once he finds species of his type he would not want to change that habitat. I cherish every relationship that I created after coming to this city. They are the ones who make me think and rethink on the decision of changing the city.. I now believe that a city is not beautiful or ugly by the infrastructure or the monuments but the people. And trust me I found great ones around me. I today take this opportunity to thank all those friends who have helped me in some way or the other to survive in this city of dreams and follow my dreams. 

Keep loving Mumbai..... Every Mumbaikar feels it is as his  own.... Amchi Mumbai..... I never thought I could say this but here I am after eight years writing this and feeling it as well.......

Mother has to bother.............

Being a mother is a very difficult and a  thankless job. As a mom I have to scold my daughter, pamper her, motivate her and also teach her to be independent. I always remember a story
told by my mom to me when I was a kid. I also shared the same with my daughter when she complained saying ' mom why you always scold me. Why don't you ignore my mistakes'. Lemme share the short story..

Once there was a couple, they got a child after 10 long years of prayer to God. They named the boy Ayush. He was the apple of their eyes. The parents would not scold him or teach him right or wrong. They were too much engrossed in loving him. The boy developed the habit of stealing stuff from his school. The teacher reported to the parents but they ignored and told the teacher that it's just pencil that he brought home and this can't be called stealing.

This boy grew up to be a robber and once got caught in a bank robbery. He was sentenced imprisonment. The boy requested the jail attendant to let him meet his mother as he wanted to share a secret with her. The attendant allowed. The mother went to meet his son. He told her to come close as he wanted to say something in her ears. The moment the mom came near ;he went to her and bit her ear. Then he told her that  'this is for not scolding me 15 years back when I stole that first pencil from school.'

I would say that don't take anything wrong lying down. At least raise your voice when you feel that something wrong is being done. You never know some bad trait of your loved ones you ignore today because of the fear of losing them or because you love them too much can become delirious for everyone tomorrow...........

Barter system of relationships.......

Whenever I would attend a wedding  I would always wonder why the hell has God made such complicated relationships. Why the weddings originated? In my view point it was because he has created the feminine species as multitaskers  and the masculine species as focus sorts . A typical male cannot take care of more than 2 things at a time. And a typical female would love challenges in her work and would look for more responsibilities in her work domain. Owing to these peculiarities of their individual nature god might have thought of loading the females with responsibilities of both side of families, her career and her self actualisation .  And what left to male was to focus on that one FEMALE in his life and his career.
Now we all know till here. Let u s look at it from a management point of view. In a female's KRA there are a lot of emotional responsibilities. Now the male who acts as a manager has a very crucial role to play. We know that in organisations once you cross a certain level your ratings depend on the rating of the team that you lead. In our case it is the spouse in either of the side. Now how do you ensure that this subordinate named 'SPOUSE' functions properly. Let us remember ,NOTHING COMES FOR FREE IN THIS WORLD., God I guess would have thought of these things way earlier than us and as a result he created LOVE, ATTRACTION,FAITH and TRUST.
I feel these are the four riders of a smooth sailing merger between two different individual.
If a guy would not love enough or should I say would not show that he cares in both Cash or Kind then believe me the last two riders would be affected; and  the employee named wife would simply start behaving cold towards her prime KRA which includes loving him back, taking care of his family the way he wants and being tender towards his needs.
If a female would not show the first two drivers and obviously the male as time immemorial has shown would just delete the last two and also find a secret replacement.

Sometimes I wonder what a great management GURU God is ........ He thought of all these way before he made Adam and Eve....... Now it's for us to think...... Where we want this merger to go...".......
Bye for now..... Keep loving each other.......... And get benefited from this barter of relationships......

Hi, this is my first attempt at blogging. Had so many ideas in the mind and thought of sharing or should I say boring others with the same.... Hope u guys like it.