On this Mother’s Day, here’s to my preteenager and every
other preteenager on the block. During your early childhood your mom taught you
basic skills like, brushing your teeth, cleaning yourself and eating with fork
and knife. So, we can say that your mom taught you to take care of body and
learning those skills from her ensured that you had a smooth and a healthy
childhood. Your mom in your early childhood taught you to be physically strong
and independent.
Now as you are standing at very crucial crossroads of your
life, you are what I call a Mini Adult. It is your mom’s duty again to share life lessons and ensure
a smooth transition in to adulthood. She must make you emotionally independent
and strong in this phase.
Here’s what I would like to share with you……
Be YOU
In this world where carbon copies are celebrated, Be yourself. You are unique in the way you are created and
as Joanna Gaines nailed it: The World needs who you were made
to be.
In the pursuit of acting cool do not leave back Yourself and
the values that make You. I know, it is very difficult to always be yourselves
and at times you are left alone without friends. But remember one thing, it is
always better to walk alone on the right path then to follow the herd and walk
the wrong path. Be original and stay away from fake people and situations.
Choose your herd
wisely
As they say, ‘You are a direct product of
5 people you hangout with’.
If you ever closely observe, you will always be influenced by at the most 5
people whom you regularly spend time with. This is also called your close
circle. You are at the age where 4 out of 5 influencers are your friends.
Choose them wisely. They will shape and influence your Being. Do not be a part
of something that would embarrass your future self. This is the time to pave
the path for your adulthood. Make sure you lay a strong foundation.
Your Vibe Attracts
Your Tribe
Think before you think whether you
should waste the power of your thoughts on it or not. As you know,
you are radiating powerful vibrations through your thoughts. So, if in life you
feel you are surrounded by mean people and situations, very likely, your
thoughts are attracting them towards you. Change the channel. Tune in to a higher
frequency thought and you will change your tribe. When you start enjoying
putting others down, you like to respond rudely, you snap at every conversation
and you start taking pride of your achievements, STOP and think, whether you
are thinking the right thoughts and sending the right frequency because you
will be served what you deserve. Raise the vibrations by thinking about ideas
and not people and negativity will automatically repel.
Always do the right
thing
Include this in your daily prayers. Always do the right
thing no matter what. Do not let anything stop you from doing what
is right. Do not fear that you will make people unhappy by doing it. You don’t
have to always please people, you aren’t an ice cream. Now you may ask, how do
we figure out what is right? The answer lies within You. Listen to your inner
voice. You will always get the right answers. Again, the question arises, what
if I don’t hear the inner voice? Well, here’s a simple way to know whether you
are doing the right thing or not; concentrate on your feelings. If you feel
great after a behavior, you did the right thing. If you feel awful, that means,
you might want to check your words or actions. No one feels good putting other
people down, no one would feel good after a fight and no one would feel great
of breaking a rule. You might get a sense of being strong doing all that, but
you won’t feel good and that’s the key. If you don’t feel right, that’s not the
right thing. Listen to yourself. Every night before going to bed, write a
journal, list down your feelings and keep a track of your feelings.
Do not Bully or get Bullied
Let’s understand the psychology behind bullying. Bullying is
when someone enjoys pulling you down. Now this is a no brainer, we can only pull-down things that are above us. Even a
kindergartner would agree to this. So. The answer is simple, the reason someone
is bullying you is because you are above them in some way or the other and they
want to pull you down to their level.
Now, you have two choices: either you stoop down to their
level, get in to an argument and let them beat you with experience. Remember,
you are stooping down to their level, you don’t belong there so you would not
know the tricks of the games they are playing. OR, you leave them at their
level, do not get affected and concentrate on raising your vibe. In this case
they would have to get out of their comfort zones of dirty mind set and step up
to your positive mindset, which will be difficult in the beginning but, it
would be great for you both. The choices is yours’s and not theirs’s because
you are above them. It is your moral duty to lift them and not fall to their
level.
I know this is easier said then done, but it is pointless to
get affected by bullies. Instead, feel their pain. One would always give what
they have. This also implies the fact that next time you are
trying to bully someone, always remember you are pulling someone who is above
you.
Learn to say NO
No is a complete
sentence. There is absolutely
no explanation needed for your NO. Remember this, when you are surrounded by
toxic people and situations that try to steer you away from your roots, stop,
and say NO to yourself and to them. Let
me share a fact here; what happens to the trees in heavy windstorm? The trees
that survive a windstorm are not the ones with strong branches or more leaves
but, are the ones with strong roots. Infact, the leaves are the first ones to
wither in storm. Always, be proud of your roots and keep aligning your
personality to your purpose. In the worst storm of life, the people with strong
roots would survive and come out clean.
Wear an attitude of
gratitude
This might sound old school, but,
OH well!! Sooner or later everyone would quote their mom. And you would also
quote me later… Let your true character be your brand in this branded world. Do
wear an attitude but let it be of gratitude, grace, confidence and respect. Be
grateful for everything that you have. Everyone has three things every day to
be grateful for. Write a
gratitude journal and see how your joys manifest.
Learn to respond, “The Royal Way”.
The Royals would always talk with grace and confidence. Bring that in your
behavior and you would manifest it in others as well. Remember, you always get
what you give. If you give a Royal Treatment to someone, you will attract it
back.
You are a product of your choices
We are always told to make wise
choices. Life is all about choices that you make. It is about being, doing and
becoming and not about expecting, hoping and wishing. After reading this, you
again have a choice, either to churn this in your mind and experiment a new way
to react and share it with your peers or to live with old ways. The situations
will also remain the same and would be thrown at you, It is your choice to
choose how to react wisely and royally in any situation that gets thrown your
way.
In today’s world we lay so much
importance on eating healthy and eating clean. There are so many diets invented
for it, like, Keto Diet, Paleo Diet, Plant based diet and so on and so forth.
Let’s get on to the Emotional Quotient Diet to get our emotional
strength back. Follow this diet for a month and see how your world manifests
into a different reality.
PS: Dear mini adults, if
you are old enough to have an I phone of yours’s, you are wise enough to save
this blog in your notes folder and read it every day till you ingrain it ..…
Happy Mother’s Day!!
The hand that rocks a cradle….
….is the hand that rules the world!!
-William Ross Wallace
