Roots and Wings.......

                                              

Roots and wings define a very important element of parenting. I feel that as a parent we should maintain a balance in providing roots as well as wings to our children.

let us take an example, we often come across kids who are spoilt. Now is that the kid's fault? Was that kid born with that attitude? Not really, it is the parent's fault. They forgot give the roots to the kid and gave him wings too early.

we also come across some conservative parents who have such well behaved kids, but they tend to pull the string little too far. They try to supervise and micro manage each and every aspect of their kid's life. Probably they forgot to give wings to their kids.

I must say here that it is important to give both roots and wings but the order in which they are given is also important. Once the kid get the wings, you can never ever give him the roots and visa versa. The.The order is important and so is the timing.

let's analyse a step further, as to what happens when there is an absence of either of these two elements. The kids without the roots would be by default  brats, confussed, not focussed and worthy of making mistake. But have we realized that absence of wings also does the same thing. They would lose focus, would be confused as they are not the decision makers and often make some unpleasant mistakes just to experience that sense of freedom.

All I would say is let us give them right thing at the right time. giving them roots is our way of showing them the world and by giving them wings we give them a fair chance to show us the world their way.

So lets all love the little angels that we have and give them the best at the best time... and the most important thing TRUST THEM.... 

Together we can.....

                                  

    The other day I was watching a hindi movie, Mary Com, based on the real life story of an Indian Female Boxer who has been a world champion. This lady dared to do what people thought was impossible. She dared to balance her personal and professional life and managed to excel in both.

This set me thinking as to what makes Mary Com, The Mary Com and Sachin Tendulkar, The Sachin Tendulkar or for that matter Amitabh Bachchan, The Amitabh Bachchan. When we deeply ponder on the lives of these legends we see that they have one thread that is common. It is not only their dedication, humble attitude, but their great Partnerships. They have strong life partners, the ones who could visualize their success more than they did and could sacrifice their own life’s goal for their partners.

Could you imagine Sachin Tendulkar being able to roam around the globe creating records if he was not secure that his kids were in safe hands and that he had a strong partner to take care of eventualities? What if Anjali Tendulkar would have put her foot down and said she being a doctor herself would not take the sole responsibility of raising the kids while he is away. I am sure Sachin wouldn’t be a legend then.

let me take you one step further, would you have the same respect for Sachin Tendulkar if he only concentrated on his play, did not get married and would not want to start a family? Anything that is incomplete and directed to just one direction is not welcomed. the fact that these all legends have gained respect in the eyes of people is not only for their work but also for a sense of completion that they have achieved by touching up and carving all the niches of their lives.believe me they could not have done it alone. It is the partnership that works. It would be very negative to say that Anjali sacrificed. I would say she prioritized. She embraced her spouse’s dreams and together they achieved everything; a successful career for both, two kids and fame.

This brings to life a very important management lesson: diversify and expand but synergize. It is wiser for partners to have different skill sets, different dreams and be able to synchronize them and achieve them. By doing this you can expand leaps and bound. This is an age old concept being used by almost all big and successful organizations. However, what I would like to highlight here is that even as individuals we can also use this in our own lives.

Imagine how life would be if both the husband and wife are only chasing money. They would certainly end up getting a lot of money. But would certainly lose on many more important aspects of life. But if they plan to diversify and expand, then they can achieve a little bit of everything.

By saying this I do not mean that one partner needs to say good bye to his own dreams to let the other one full fill his. No, I say that make your partners dreams yours and then see how the world changes. Anjali Tendulkar did not say goodbye to her career, but she definitely knew where to balance and how to manage, without throwing a feat on her spouse.

I conclude saying that let us all synergize for a greater good. Let us not think of just our own goals and careers but also think of the family goals and happiness of each one. I truly feel that everyone has immense potential to reach their goals and soar high but only a few reach there because along with their hard work they have someone in their life who truly believes ‘THEY CAN”. Find your  someone who believes in YOU and hold on to them because you may be soaring high but they are the ones who make you do that. Likewise, believe in someone and be with them in the times they need you and see how world around you blossoms.

                                                                                                                                                   

Amchi Mumbai reloaded........

Hello there, so sorry, I am writing after a long time but jus got busy with my migration. Believe me, leaving Mumbai was not at all easy.  After spending close to a decade in this city of dreams, I realised that you either would love it or hate it, but can't be indifferent to it.

More I miss being in Mumbai, more I feel like thanking the city and the people for helping me in being what I am. This city teaches you to be on your own and yet be surrounded by people. It served as a boot camp for my life to come.

Today when I am in USA for a longer duration, I do not feel the stress of coping up with the lifestyle and the routine. It is more or less the same as it was back home. The attitude of people is also non interfereing, just like Mumbai.

A very very important thing that the city teaches you is accepting and respecting cultural diversity and that is what came handy in this new country.  I see myself as more experimentative with people and more receptive to new culture.

My six year old daughter once was asked to compare which one is better? USA or Mumbai. She very wisely answered saying USA doesn't have anything great that Mumbai doesn't have, except better roads and a bigger house.

I believe every city that you live, leaves a little bit of it's flavour in you. But Mumbai is my essense. I am happy that I could dream and see my dreams come true in that city of dreams. Would love to return to the base to be with those lovely friends and neighbours.

Till then. Amchi Mumbai ........

I would end this blog with few lines from one of my favourite songs from the movie namaste London..

"Main jahan rahu, kahi bhi rahu,

Teri yaad saath hai,

Kisi se kahoon ya nahin kahoon,

Yeh jo dil ki baat hai,

Kehne ko saath apne yeh dooniya chalti hai

Par chhoop ke is dil mein tanhai rehti hai

Teri yaad saath hai...."

Luv u my city.......